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He likes cheerleader costumes…?

Subwaystop · 27/03/2025 23:43

Chatting with this guy who seems to be a total gentleman. Then he added ”in the bedroom I like short skirts tall boots, schoolgirl and cheerleader costumes.” Say what! It was meant to to invite his style – casual, elegant, formal, etc. He replied that he loves my quirky dress style and how much personality I have, that it comes through in my clothing. What would you make of it? I had an event that required a careful wardrobe selection and in discussing my shopping asked him what his taste in clothing is.

I think if I was just chatting to someone and having a conversation that wasn’t at all about sex, I would think they were being fucking weird to suddenly announce what they liked women to wear ‘in the bedroom’ at all, regardless of what it was.

And yes, wanting middle-aged women to dress as schoolgirls and cheerleaders is a depressing thought. I don’t think it necessarily means he literally wants to shag underage girls, but regardless of that, it would certainly get a big no from me.

Anything like that really has to do it for both partners. If a man has a real thing for something that also makes me feel sexy, that’s great. But I wouldn’t in a million years be dressing in something I felt stupid or uncomfortable in just because some bloke had apparently not moved on sexually since 1978.

SuspiciousChipmunk · 28/03/2025 12:37

It would put me off but I’m not very kinky

I would say I am somewhat kinky but if a man told me he wanted me to dress as a cheerleader my legs would instantly close whenever he got within a mile of me.

So it’s a bloke you’ve never met already telling you his sexual fantasies? You and every other random woman who crosses his path probably

Honestly these type of men are so predictable in their sleaziness

MrsSunshine2b · 28/03/2025 13:21

Nothing. Just because he likes school girl outfits doesn’t mean he likes actual school girls, and school girl outfits are nothing like actual school uniforms. Most people in the UK have never encountered an actual cheerleader so it’s pure fantasy.

Agreed. I don’t think it means he’s a paedo. I would find it incredibly naff and unsexy though. And I also think just announcing your bedroom fantasies to someone you haven’t even had a date with, in a chat that wasn’t even about sex, is also a no-no.

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 28/03/2025 13:29

It worked for Nicola Sturgeon 😁

Petalblossomtrees · 28/03/2025 13:26

Oh no not the Krankies! ! Lol I can’t bear them, made myself feel 🤢 now haha! Yep every time you think you might have found a nice one, before you know it they’re turning the chat to some creepy sex talk. It’s extremely depressing and disappointing 😔

ScrubMummy · 28/03/2025 12:56

Ughh! Just had ”Krankie” vibes then!

He didn’t waste any time getting in with his ideas, did he?

As I find myself thinking & saying more and more recently…. What happened to some nice dates, followed by ”getting to know each other” bedroom activity, those first few weeks together can be so lovely.

But no – yet again, some strange berk carrying his fantasies in front of him, is in like a rat up a drain pipe😥 No time for what we might like…oh no! You have to be dressed like ”Debbie does Dallas” or a School girl (🤮) cos it’s what he wants.

It’s all so bloody predictable and depressing☹️

Petalblossomtrees · 28/03/2025 11:35

Ugh what is wrong with these men? I bet he wouldn’t be so keen then at looking a complete idiot. !! What would he say if you said you wanted him to wear a schoolboys outfit – short pants, blazer, cap? It’s gross

😁🤣🤣

Creep, maybe the only way he can get it up which makes it even worse

Like every man you’ve met, you mean. There’s a significant, important difference.

It doesn’t need to be excused, no-one has to justify their kinks provided everyone involved is a consenting adult. Whether it was inappropriate for this man to share his sexual fantasies at this point in time is up to OP, as is whether, based on that information, she feels like they would be well matched in the bedroom.

He’s a closet paedo.

Petalblossomtrees · 28/03/2025 13:31

Oh stop trying to excuse it! 🤣

MrsSunshine2b · 28/03/2025 13:27

Teacher/student is about power. Many sexual fantasies/kinks are about exploring a power dynamic. Wanting to play at dominating in the bedroom doesn’t mean you want to carry that through to real life, and in a sexual power play it’s the ”sub” who actually holds the power and sets the boundaries.

Cheerleaders are not necessarily teenagers, professional cheerleaders are adults. Anyone I know who has ever done cheer started at University. In the UK, schools typically do not have cheerleading teams.

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 28/03/2025 11:57

There’s no logic in this at all 😳

Roleplay of teacher/student is still about age.

Subwaystop · 28/03/2025 11:54

The cheerleader comment made me think this guy is into teenage girls. I think the schoolgirl comment was more of a roleplay of teacher and student which didn’t seem so much about age.

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 28/03/2025 11:37

It’s weird that he mentioned school uniforms but that wasn’t first on you’re list of things that made you uncomfortable.

The rest is pretty ’standard’ in what a lot of men and women like in the bedroom.

I don’t think it’s an excuse. Some people do like fantasy power dynamics and even more besides. It’s a fact that a lot of people are into an entire spectrum of this and they can’t all be secret paedos.

Obviously though, OP is not a willing participant in this. Sure, consenting adults get up to all sorts together – all sorts – but it should always take two to Tango.

I assumed you had met him as he ”loves your quirky dress style”. Have you been sending him pictures then?

I’d just stop talking. No explanation needed.

DonaldJohnTrump · 28/03/2025 13:46

That’s a big strong.

Well, maybe me, but surely not the Pope?

PickledElectricity · 27/03/2025 23:46

He’s a dirty perv like every other man out there.

True

No Catholic men in power have ever been dirty pervs.

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Maybe he means he dresses as a schoolgirl?

Instant ick

TheBuffetInspector · 28/03/2025 13:39

He sounds like his fantasy is young. Cheerleader – did anyone watch that Dallas Cowboys thing on Netflix? They’re certainly not young there, but highly dedicated and athletic.

Men like short skirts, tight tops. I’m 50 so I’m not really rocking them any more (if ever 😭😂). Just because a man is older doesn’t mean they don’t find such things sexually attractive. Schoolgirl is a def no no for me, but it doesn’t mean paedophilia.

A more mature man would have perhaps said – sexy Secretary… Short skirt, tight top…

No man is ever going to say leggings stretched over a fat arse and a comfy hoodie.

That’s why I stay single, because to all intents and purposes men find young women sexually attractive and the same doesn’t often go for women.

I don’t know.

I don’t know anything. Other than peace of mind 🤣

I can’t see how the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders could be seen as a controversial fetish. Hopefully, most of us know that there is a real actual woman inside there who has a personality outside of ”America’s sweetheart”, and it is just fantasy, for fun. Everything from the revealing outfits, the provocative dances and even the code of conduct- perky, smiley, always energetic, never demanding- is all about creating a fantasy for the men watching. The ENTIRE purpose of them is to be a sexual fantasy for men.